A concerned dad reached out to parenting forum Reddit for advice on whether to let his 16-year-old daughter meet a 17-year-old boy she “met” in person on Instagram.
“Is this a cause for concern? Daughter is asking to hang out with someone she met online,” Reddit user “meaty_maker” wrote on March 31.
In the post, the “meaty_maker” explained that the 16-year-old daughter is “what I would consider a normal teenager” and He has social media accounts.
Recently she was on the phone (actual voice conversation) with a guy (17) and they want to spend time together. and my daughterAnd he asked me, knowing my expectations, if he could hang out here.
The father wrote that he “wanted to say no, but had no indication it was a problem.”
In addition, “her mother doesn’t see the problem and would rather they be here than anywhere else.”
“This is part of what makes me uncomfortable,” the father wrote. “
She goes to Giant High School and has friends from her former school. Now some young people He reaches her via Instagram And they start chatting.
The father said the 17-year-old had “mutual acquaintances with her, but not all of these ‘mutual relations’ that she knows personally.”
“The young man is homeschooled and lives about 30 minutes away from us, so I can’t try to connect him to any other children or families my family might know,” he wrote.
The father asked if My dad is overreactingOr, if he’s right, be careful.
“It seems strange that a child who is not attached to any school and lives 30 minutes away would suddenly have an interest in my child,” he wrote.
“I feel like I don’t want this kid to know where we live,” he added.
He asked the others, “Am I overprotective or overly cautious?”
Fox News Digital has reached out to the father for any additional comments or updates. Fox News Digital also reached out to a psychologist in New York City to get some insight.
The consensus among the nearly 200 responses to the post so far was that the father wasn’t overprotective – but would have to agree to letting his daughter meet the boy in a public place first.
On Reddit, users can “upvote” comments they find helpful and “downvote” comments they don’t.
Reddit user “FastCar2467” wrote in the top-voted reply to the father’s original post.
Another important comment shared a scary situation about the person’s past.
“I did this as a teenager (15 at the time, MySpace era),” Immediate_Guess_9853 wrote.
“My parents let the guy pass, and it turned into my worst nightmare,” she wrote. “It turns out he’s a stalker and I regret knowing where I live.”
Immediate_Guess_9853 said if she could get everything over again, she would have asked to “meet in a public place like Starbucks with my parents or somewhere nearby.” She would only share her address if all went well.
Others, especially Reddit users who said they were homeschooled, shared more positive stories about online encounters with strangers.
One user noted that she would only have shared her address if all went well.
“Speaking of your last paragraph, this is how a 17-year-old homeschooled student meets people his own age,” said user TylerSB1.
“He does not have a school where it would be natural for him to acquire a network of people he met physically.”
User “thebuffaloqueen” agreed.
“One of my homeschooled church friends met his future wife (like 7-8 years in the future) via MySpace in like 2008-ish because she was in my top 8, and I told him she was a close friend of mine,” she wrote.
“He simply didn’t have much access to the other kids and I was the only other kid in our church youth group who was allowed to use MySpace.”
“Exercise a lot of caution but let it be,” one person wrote.
Thipafalquin agreed that the first meeting should be in a public place, not in their home – and warned him that forbidding the meeting might end badly.
“I speak as a former 16-year-old, if you are no Allow them to meet in person on your terms, as there is a high chance that she will meet with him secretly without informing you, which could be very harmful to her if he is lying about who he really is,” she said.
Several Redditors have praised the father for his upbringing, given that his daughter trusts him enough to ask him about this.
Reddit user “ahawk90347” said: “This is normal in today’s world. Be very careful but let it be.”
“And be proud that she asked you instead of going behind your back. It’s a sign of a good parent!”